So. I had a bunch of odd dreams last night. They were my usual traveling through cities and houses and wandering up and down hills in various locations. However I woke up with some thoughts as a result of a couple of the scenarios that I will share.
What in the hell is wrong with our society that a woman can’t just be herself?
More specifically, why is it that a woman cannot be considered sexy just the way she is. Why does she have to shave off all of her hair? Why does she have to wear makeup? Why does she have to push up her breasts and expose them in order to be considered sexy? Why is it that a skinny body with big boobs is the quintessential American idea of beauty? Why big lips? Long legs? Tiny waists? Big booty? Small booty?
Oh, you say, that is the biological imperative to ensnare as many male suitors as possible.
Is it?
Is it always about sex?
Even animals that produce colorful arrays or behavior only use it during the mating time, not all the time. Are we to assume that the modern male is constantly in a state of wanting to produce babies; likewise, the modern female?
Or is there some other message being sent here? And, more importantly, what is that message?
I am attracted to the male body, buff and shining with oil; his face angular and even featured with wide apart eyes and a square chin. IN FANTASY! Do I think just because a man is muscular and good looking that he is a good person for me?
Nope.
Ergo: all this fascination with physical beauty is a joke, a game, a sleight of hand (if you will) that keeps the American psyche in a state of flux instead of focusing on what really matters.
Do entertainment and media propagate this fantasy? You bet, because it MAKES MONEY.
Giving modern society some unattainable goal to pursue to assuage their basic sexual needs is keeping that society in a powerless place. It bestows a semblance of power to those with wealth that can buy their personal attributes or afford a beautiful companion, but leaves the rest of us wondering what is wrong with us that we can’t belong to that special group.
Or, more frighteningly, maybe misogyny in America is a far greater problem that anyone realizes.
Ideas?
As far as the “Finding a Mate” activity: nope.
I have communicated with several nice fellows and been chosen by a personal matchmaker for another (who never called me), and registered with another site recommended by a friend.
Nada. I am not desirable in this particular venue apparently.
My subscription with the first paid site is just about up. I will not be re subscribing. I have decided that it is time for me to join an actual physical group of people based on my political-environmental beliefs and hopefully, while doing a bit of good, possible find someone with which I am compatible. Or not. Just doing a bit of good would be fine at this point.
While doing research on them, I found all kinds of eclectic places where like minds could meet.
Here are a few of my favorites:
Survivalist Singles (get your MRE’s here)
420 Dating (all things and people marijuana)
Twins Realm (okay…)
Fitness Singles (obvious)
Sea Captain Date (arrrggh)
Vampersonals (vampires)
Asexualitic (no sex)
LARP Passions (Live action roll-playing)
these sodbusters (farmers only)
Purrrsonals (cat lovers)
Find Your Face Mate (uses face-recognition software)
Cupidtino (iPhone nuts)
LargeFriends.com (obvious)
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I wrote you a little story. Enjoy:
Whole Foods
The tiny lady, her short smooth coif dyed that pale golden Labrador retriever color women of a certain age use and dressed to the nines in what appeared to be red wool Chanel and Manolo Blahnik pumps with a subdued black Coach purse hanging from her arm, picked through the cantaloupes, squeezing each gently, bringing the stem end up to her wrinkled nose (as if smelling the diaper of a baby suspected of filling it’s liner) then discarding them, one by one, on top of the already full bin of seedless watermelons to her left.
I was so entranced at her behavior, having just pulled up to the cantaloupe bin myself, cart overflowing and ice cream melting, that I stood behind her quietly observing and loath to disturb her ritual.
It was as if by this spell binding routine, which mind you, had gone on for at least 10 minutes as I stood watching, mouth hung open, she was ridding the earth of pestilence, curing cancer, realigning the ozone over Antarctica, and possibly clearing the right wing press of their hatred of the left instead of merely looking for a ripe cantaloupe.
I was fascinated.
I looked behind me and there stood an employee (I knew this because he was wearing a green apron with “Whole Foods” across the chest and “Fred“ in a lovely cursive) equally as slack jawed and mesmerized. I nodded. He nodded back. We continued to stand and watch as the cantaloupes in the cantaloupe bin grew less and less, and the cantaloupes that were piled on top of the tiny seedless watermelons grew higher and higher.
The employee and I looked at each other again raising our eyebrows slightly in alarm at the gravity-defying act playing out before us.
It was only a matter of time before the large stack of pale, creamy white cantaloupes was tossed off the backs of the much smaller (and so much more attractive in their striped green suits) seedless watermelons. They had to be getting squished with all that golden round goodness resting on their little round orbs.
We waited
It was as if time stood still. All background sounds were gone: late 80“s rock music, crying children, the soft roar of murmuring humans particular to large stores, there was a vacuum in the ether holding just me, the employee, the cantaloupes, and the champagne coiffed senior citizen in Chanel.
And then the show was over. Mrs. Fifth Avenue (who, no doubt, drives a silver Mercedes with a disabled sticker) simply took a second sniff of one comely looking melon, nodded her head, stuck it in her basket, gave a cursory look at we two dummies standing behind her, and flounced down the aisle towards the check out counter.
That’s when the tiny watermelons revolted. One little sucker must have given a kick out at his nearest neighbor and the Rube Goldberg-esque scene erupted in mounds of organic five dollar a pound cantaloupes shooting over the edge of the bin like an Einstein drawing of excited atoms exiting said vacuum.
It was marvelous. Some of them broke right away, spraying my tan cargo pants and Earth shoes with white seeds and orange pulp, some of them went under other shoppers carts and cracked under the dirty black wheels, but most happily rolled down the aisle towards the tomatoes with never a backwards glance.
There was no sound; not a peep, everyone had truly stopped dead in their cantalouped tracks to watch the melons run out of the bin like an overflowing creek.
I could almost hear those little seedless watermelons sigh in relief.
In the silence came a breathless and amazed “whoa!” behind me and I turned to see a well dressed adolescent male, face alive with delight and cell phone in hand (no doubt mid text) drop his mouth in a surprised “O” shape.
That broke the spell and stopped the magic. The rolling had ceased, Fred the produce guy had gone for his mop and broom and Mrs. Red Chanel was no doubt firing up her Merc in the parking lot with no idea of the chaos she left behind her in on that Saturday afternoon in Whole Foods…. the day after my father died.
God bless her.
What in the hell is wrong with our society that a woman can’t just be herself?
More specifically, why is it that a woman cannot be considered sexy just the way she is. Why does she have to shave off all of her hair? Why does she have to wear makeup? Why does she have to push up her breasts and expose them in order to be considered sexy? Why is it that a skinny body with big boobs is the quintessential American idea of beauty? Why big lips? Long legs? Tiny waists? Big booty? Small booty?
Oh, you say, that is the biological imperative to ensnare as many male suitors as possible.
Is it?
Is it always about sex?
Even animals that produce colorful arrays or behavior only use it during the mating time, not all the time. Are we to assume that the modern male is constantly in a state of wanting to produce babies; likewise, the modern female?
Or is there some other message being sent here? And, more importantly, what is that message?
I am attracted to the male body, buff and shining with oil; his face angular and even featured with wide apart eyes and a square chin. IN FANTASY! Do I think just because a man is muscular and good looking that he is a good person for me?
Nope.
Ergo: all this fascination with physical beauty is a joke, a game, a sleight of hand (if you will) that keeps the American psyche in a state of flux instead of focusing on what really matters.
Do entertainment and media propagate this fantasy? You bet, because it MAKES MONEY.
Giving modern society some unattainable goal to pursue to assuage their basic sexual needs is keeping that society in a powerless place. It bestows a semblance of power to those with wealth that can buy their personal attributes or afford a beautiful companion, but leaves the rest of us wondering what is wrong with us that we can’t belong to that special group.
Or, more frighteningly, maybe misogyny in America is a far greater problem that anyone realizes.
Ideas?
As far as the “Finding a Mate” activity: nope.
I have communicated with several nice fellows and been chosen by a personal matchmaker for another (who never called me), and registered with another site recommended by a friend.
Nada. I am not desirable in this particular venue apparently.
My subscription with the first paid site is just about up. I will not be re subscribing. I have decided that it is time for me to join an actual physical group of people based on my political-environmental beliefs and hopefully, while doing a bit of good, possible find someone with which I am compatible. Or not. Just doing a bit of good would be fine at this point.
While doing research on them, I found all kinds of eclectic places where like minds could meet.
Here are a few of my favorites:
Survivalist Singles (get your MRE’s here)
420 Dating (all things and people marijuana)
Twins Realm (okay…)
Fitness Singles (obvious)
Sea Captain Date (arrrggh)
Vampersonals (vampires)
Asexualitic (no sex)
LARP Passions (Live action roll-playing)
these sodbusters (farmers only)
Purrrsonals (cat lovers)
Find Your Face Mate (uses face-recognition software)
Cupidtino (iPhone nuts)
LargeFriends.com (obvious)
*************************************
I wrote you a little story. Enjoy:
Whole Foods
The tiny lady, her short smooth coif dyed that pale golden Labrador retriever color women of a certain age use and dressed to the nines in what appeared to be red wool Chanel and Manolo Blahnik pumps with a subdued black Coach purse hanging from her arm, picked through the cantaloupes, squeezing each gently, bringing the stem end up to her wrinkled nose (as if smelling the diaper of a baby suspected of filling it’s liner) then discarding them, one by one, on top of the already full bin of seedless watermelons to her left.
I was so entranced at her behavior, having just pulled up to the cantaloupe bin myself, cart overflowing and ice cream melting, that I stood behind her quietly observing and loath to disturb her ritual.
It was as if by this spell binding routine, which mind you, had gone on for at least 10 minutes as I stood watching, mouth hung open, she was ridding the earth of pestilence, curing cancer, realigning the ozone over Antarctica, and possibly clearing the right wing press of their hatred of the left instead of merely looking for a ripe cantaloupe.
I was fascinated.
I looked behind me and there stood an employee (I knew this because he was wearing a green apron with “Whole Foods” across the chest and “Fred“ in a lovely cursive) equally as slack jawed and mesmerized. I nodded. He nodded back. We continued to stand and watch as the cantaloupes in the cantaloupe bin grew less and less, and the cantaloupes that were piled on top of the tiny seedless watermelons grew higher and higher.
The employee and I looked at each other again raising our eyebrows slightly in alarm at the gravity-defying act playing out before us.
It was only a matter of time before the large stack of pale, creamy white cantaloupes was tossed off the backs of the much smaller (and so much more attractive in their striped green suits) seedless watermelons. They had to be getting squished with all that golden round goodness resting on their little round orbs.
We waited
It was as if time stood still. All background sounds were gone: late 80“s rock music, crying children, the soft roar of murmuring humans particular to large stores, there was a vacuum in the ether holding just me, the employee, the cantaloupes, and the champagne coiffed senior citizen in Chanel.
And then the show was over. Mrs. Fifth Avenue (who, no doubt, drives a silver Mercedes with a disabled sticker) simply took a second sniff of one comely looking melon, nodded her head, stuck it in her basket, gave a cursory look at we two dummies standing behind her, and flounced down the aisle towards the check out counter.
That’s when the tiny watermelons revolted. One little sucker must have given a kick out at his nearest neighbor and the Rube Goldberg-esque scene erupted in mounds of organic five dollar a pound cantaloupes shooting over the edge of the bin like an Einstein drawing of excited atoms exiting said vacuum.
It was marvelous. Some of them broke right away, spraying my tan cargo pants and Earth shoes with white seeds and orange pulp, some of them went under other shoppers carts and cracked under the dirty black wheels, but most happily rolled down the aisle towards the tomatoes with never a backwards glance.
There was no sound; not a peep, everyone had truly stopped dead in their cantalouped tracks to watch the melons run out of the bin like an overflowing creek.
I could almost hear those little seedless watermelons sigh in relief.
In the silence came a breathless and amazed “whoa!” behind me and I turned to see a well dressed adolescent male, face alive with delight and cell phone in hand (no doubt mid text) drop his mouth in a surprised “O” shape.
That broke the spell and stopped the magic. The rolling had ceased, Fred the produce guy had gone for his mop and broom and Mrs. Red Chanel was no doubt firing up her Merc in the parking lot with no idea of the chaos she left behind her in on that Saturday afternoon in Whole Foods…. the day after my father died.
God bless her.